There have been days where I’ve felt like I haven’t been able to get off the floor.
Days that I wondered where the energy to deal with one more toddler tantrum would come from – or would it just tip me over the edge.
Days without makeup, without a happy vibe, days where I felt the treadmill that I couldn’t escape was getting faster and faster and I was about to land flat on my face.
Those days aren’t all that common anymore, because of the many choices I’ve made to get me far from that place. Not always easy choices – I might add!
If you feel like eating healthy food/regular exercise/RESTING is waaaaay out of your reach, I want you to know I get it and am here to help.
I do believe that there’s a different way to BE – no matter your circumstances. I believe that because I’ve lived it.
2017 was a year of tremendous personal pain and upheaval. I didn’t think there were that many tears to cry and I know you know exactly what I mean. I often wondered… ‘will I ever feel like Lisa again’.
I do. And you will.
There is hope.
These moments don’t last and everything I do here at Small Steps is designed to help you out of that place.
There is a REASON I keep things simple.
There’s a REASON I shop once a week.
There is a REASON my recipes aren’t complicated.
There’s a REASON I am honest and unpolished and real.
There is a REASON I’m starting to talk about rest (and interestingly, it’s the first time I’ve EVER got resistance from this community).
You guys, we need to have these conversations. We need to shift the overwhelm.
I know it well – the devastating feeling of true overwhelm. I was there for years, internally unable to ‘switch off’. Feeling like my life was happening TO ME and I had no control.
And in a matter of months I have turned that feeling around and I’ll never go back.
A huge part of it has been taking responsibility. Not ‘being responsible’, but taking 100% responsibility for everything that is in my life.
I took responsibility for feeling chaotic. For being disorganised and forgetting things. I took responsibility for not going on more walks. I took responsibility for how I was showing up in my marriage. I took responsibility for letting my team down. I took responsibility for feeling like shit and sought ways to evolve and transform.
I took responsibility for everything RIGHT about my life too. And celebrated the crap out of it!
I created these things – I am so powerful.
But if I created the great things, I also created the not so great and I needed to take responsibility for them.
And since that moment, things haven’t been the same.
Yes, I know the overwhelm, and taking responsibility for it, well, it changed everything.
Because if I’m the creator of the overwhelm – then I have the power to reduce it too. I don’t want to live a life where I accept that this is the status quo. Sure, there’s times when things are going to get busier – peak moments – but I don’t want that 24/7. Humans are not designed for it.
I remember so clearly thinking that there was no other way and people who talked about taking ‘time out’ had no idea what I was going through. They had no idea how hard it was with young kids and growing a business that you hoped would one day give you the freedom to live back amongst the family and friends that you missed so much. They had no idea what it was like living with a partner struggling with his mental health.
So if you are resisting this message – I get that too! When my mentor said I didn’t take responsibility I wanted to smash him in the face! I couldn’t BE more responsible.
But that’s not the point.
The point is – we are powerful creators of our lives. And if I want to reduce the overwhelm I am feeling – no one else can do that, but me. If you’re happy in overwhelm – stay there. If you’re not – take responsibility and let’s start that transformation (by taking small steps of course!)
In fact – as a first step – you can grab these three pieces of advice right now. Head here.
And let me know how this resonates for you…