In this episode Lisa shares the biggest lessons she has learned in 2017. From taking responsibility for every aspect of our lives to acknowledging and stepping into our own strengths, Lisa talks about how she has ended the year a different person from who she was at the start of 2017.
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Hey guys, Something a little bit different for you today on the podcast. I recently recorded as a a Facebook Live of my biggest lessons of 2017. And there’s been some big ones.
I would go so far to say that 2017 has been my biggest, hardest, best year of my life. Whoah, deep bretah. Here we go 2018.
I just thought I would share that Facebook live with you on the podcast. I know its hard sometimes to watch the video’s, so why not an audio version. I’d love to know if you enjoy or appreciate the Facebook lives on the podcast. Its something I am more than happy to do.
I know you are probably driving the kids around or on a morning walk or something. However you enjoy the podcast, I hope that what I share from my biggest lessons resonates with you and I encourage you to think about your biggest lessons too. Because sometimes its nice to just look back and think, you know that felt like a schamozzle of a year, but actually there’s really big stuff that I’ve taken away from that. And once we recognise it and its in our consicous brain then we move forward. So enjoy these lessons. Stick with me. It might be a bit awkward as I respond to peole who are commenting in Facebook. But here it is for you, my biggest lessons of 2017.
Hey guys. Welcome. I encourage you to grab a cuppa, I’ve got one. Because check this out. I’m full of the notes for you for my top lessons of 2017. I have a lot to share. I’ve actually been in bed this afternoon. If you didn’t see today, I actually have shingles.
I did try to ignore that there were some skin problem happening on my face, with concealer, all the things. Then I went to the doctors, and they’re like, ‘You’ve got a bit of a problem here.’ So, I’ve been doing a little bit of reading about shingles and what it all means, and it all makes absolute perfect sense.
Coming up to this end of the year, I can see that there are so many of us that are in the same position as me. Kind of just getting to the end, getting to the finish line. So, for me, what’s happened here with face issue and shingles is, it’s like a physical manifestation of what’s happened, and how I’ve probably pushed myself a little bit.
So, I thought – let’s get started. I’ve got a peppermint tea here, and I have a few things to share. We’re probably not going to get through them all. Because the lessons for me in 2017 have come thick and fast, and I am left, at the end of this year, a different person to who I was at the start of the year. You know, really big things happened.
A lot of my friends, a lot of the people I’m speaking to, they’re like, ‘Wowser, that was crazy. 2017, enough already.’ One of the lessons, which is the perfect time to share it. There are so many of us feeling this.
The beautiful Jude Blereau, who is a lovely friend of mine, said to me once – and I’m sure you’ve heard some sort of version of this. She said, ‘Lisa, the universe – or whatever it is that’s your higher source – it’ll give you a tap on the shoulder if things aren’t going in the right direction.’
You know that feeling when it comes up. It’s like, ‘Probably shouldn’t, but I will. Let’s just plough on. Everything will be fine.’ And then you don’t get the message, and you get a slap across the face, and it kind of stings. And you think, ‘OK, I should probably not be going down this path.’
You’ve had the tap on the shoulder, and then you get a slap, and you’re still ignoring the signs that things are off track. And Jude is like, ‘Lisa, and the Mack Truck arrives and bowls you over.’ That is kind of what happened this year. The Mack Truck arrived.
We had to make some pretty big changes as a family, and the lesson from that was that all the work that we had done over the years – we’d really locked ourselves into a story of what wasn’t possible, and how things couldn’t change, and all of that sort of stuff. Then suddenly, they needed to, and we did.
The lesson was, ‘Whoa, we could have always, from the start. What was stopping us from taking the action that we needed was just the stories we had going on up here.’
So, we made changes, but the work that we’ve done over the years. Nick and I have always had great conversations, and a lot about what we value, what our values are. Back to You peeps would know this.
If you don’t have a solid understanding of your values, and what you stand for, and who you are, it’s like going through life without a compass. Drilling back into our values was so important in that time of crisis, when everything was up in the air.
That’s why I wanted to start teaching, and sharing that, because I’ve just realised it really is the foundation. So, that Mack Truck thing, the values thing – foundations, for me, this year. The lessons are in the truth of those two things.
We need to start honouring those little signs that we get that our lives, and things, are off track.
Ignoring them leads to the Mack Truck. So, if there’s anything I want to share, if there’s anything going on for you that you’ve got that niggling feeling, and you’re getting taps – or even slaps – from the universe, or whatever it is you believe. It’s like, ‘It’s time.’ Don’t let it get to Mack Truck stage.
The other big lesson that I learnt this year was around bravery, and the fact that we don’t realise we are as brave as we are. If I need proof of bravery, I just look at my children, and the way that they have adapted to big changes, and just gone forth with this inner confidence.
They’ve been nervous. My daughter gets butterflies and beetles when she feels nervous. But they’re so freaking brave. We have that within us, as well. We are born kind of fearless, and then we create stories about why we can’t do things. Can’t keep talking about that, because there will be tears.
But in that as well, I realised big things about myself. When you put yourself in those situations where it’s like, ‘Well, everything’s up in the air.’
Here is this lesson.
The lesson that I learnt this year was that I am limitless.
My potential is limitless. What I can create is limitless. But I have a limit, if that makes sense. So, in some senses, we’re just these creatures that are capable of anything that we actually want. There is this exponential limitlessness to us.
But I’ve also found, in my physical form – and what my brain is able to handle – I have limits. I found my limits this year. Hello shingles, showing me my limits, because I didn’t quite get it soon enough, did I?
So, I feel like once we can acknowledge that we do have this untapped, limitless potential – and we all do. That’s not a Lisa thing, that’s an ‘every human’ thing. It’s the most powerful, amazing feeling. However, in the context of motherhood, in the context of this modern world, in the context of having access to food and products that don’t quite nurture that limitless potential. They have ways of slowing us down.
We have to acknowledge that it’s not a perfect world, and that we aren’t robots. We are actually humans, and we can only take on so much. I just kind of say yes to things all the time, and I shouldn’t. And neither should you.
We need to start recognising our limits and working within them.
It makes so much sense, but why is that a lesson that I just had to keep learning? I wonder if you’re good with that, with knowing where your limits are, or just thinking because you can, you should. I think I’ve been in that zone for a long time. Just because I can do all the things doesn’t mean I actually should be doing all the things.
Can I just say – how did I even not just say this at the start? Has anybody else shed tears over the Marriage Act? Best day. Love, love, love. Hearts, hearts, hearts everywhere. That stuff just turns me on so much – it makes me believe in people, it makes me believe in goodness. It makes me know that we’re actually on the right path. What a great day to be an Australian, am I right?
I read a book this year called Essentialism, and that really changed things. So, there were a few things for me that really started me down the path. You guys have seen it, because I’ve started sharing it – running the Declutter challenges and all that sort of stuff.
There were a few things that really tipped me over to realising that’s just the only way to go now. The movie Minimalists, on Netflix – so good. The work of Allison Davies and Brain Care, so important. That Podcast that I did with her is amazing. Her work with anxiety, and our brains are so overloaded all the time.
Then this book Essentialism really started to change the way I thought about how I do things. It’s about, basically, less but better. So, you do less, create less, but you do the things that you do way better. So it’s stripping back, but having a much, much better result.
I think about that in terms of every single aspect of my life. Less, but better. If that can really sink, for you, it’s extraordinary how you start looking at your life really differently. Nick’s always been quite good at this. He’s always been quite good at stripping back. Not very into stuff, or bits and pieces like that, but really good at seeing what really needs to be done and prioritising that.
Whereas I’m like – all the things. You can see it with Small Steps Living. It’s kind of like – it’s everything! That’s really going to change for me next year. Next year, it’s really going to be, for me, about really diving into the membership. Seeing the transformations that have happened for members, I can see that that’s a place where I can most help people.
I’m going to be doing less, but better, at that.
I feel like, for those of us who like to give, for those of us who are carers or givers – we have to be so careful with how much we give out, and then what’s left for us. We have to also be careful of if we try to do all the things for everyone. I mean, it’s just not a state we can live in all the time. I know that there are so many of you out there like that.
So, we have to be careful. That’s another lesson is boundaries, and being cool with saying no. When I was really drilled down into my little unit of five, I just had to get cool with it being a no sometimes, and stripping back totally. I think we need to get a little bit better at that. Would you agree?
For me, that was definitely a big one. This is the other thing with that, though. I was speaking to my beautiful friend Amy Taylor-Kabbaz, and I hope that you guys all follow Amy, she’s amazing. We were just chatting away yesterday, and we were talking about how – she’s just such a divine creature, I’m so lucky to be her friend.
I realised this year that I was more supported than I realised before. That it’s OK for me to lean back sometimes, like literally stop and lean back, sink into something, someone. She gave me this beautiful mediation, and it was all about this.
Members, if you’re watching – you’re going to be getting some Amy love before the end of the year, because she’s got some cool stuff to share, and I know how much you love her. Anyway, it was about the most mother figure. She is, like, the mother of all things, and she is this force that will cradle you whenever you need. It is there for all of us to lean into.
I was like, ‘Oh my God, that’s so beautiful.’ Even just thinking that thought, that there is some force that will hold us if we just allow ourselves to lean back a little. Just sink in, just relax, breathe. Feel that you are supported.
I think we’ve got it more than we realise, and that other people are willing to be there for us, if we allow them to.
I am shithouse at asking for help. So bad. I mean, we’ve moved to Melbourne, have beautiful family around. There’s been one time I’m like, ‘Mum, we’ve lost a few days of work because one of our daughters has been sick. Just wondering, would it be possible – you can say no, it’s absolutely fine, there is no hard feelings. This is not something you have to say yes to.’
You can hear the way that I was asking for help. It was like, apologetically saying, ‘I need some help here.’ Big lesson of 2017 is that we can call it in, and people actually like it. There is probably a bigger force supporting us than we realise.
So, I just wanted to share that with you. Amy Taylor-Kabbaz, I heart you so hard, and I’m so glad that you’re going to be coming in to share your genius in the membership before the end of the year.
This was another one that was a bit of a doozy. I think that we’re almost, as women, beyond capable. When I say that, I mean we’re so capable, and it’s almost our downfall. I had no idea that I could organise an interstate move with absolute ease. Even my family were like, ‘Wow, for a disorganised person, you really did that quite well.’
I was like, ‘Well, yeah. You know, that’s how I roll.’ Then I just kept on, I was just on, and I didn’t switch off. Then it was finding the daycares, the schools, the kinders. It was finding homes, it was finding all the things. So capable that it’s our downfall, because at what point do we say, ‘Enough’? Before you get shingles?
I think that we can take it all on because we can, until we just can’t any more. So, my lesson of 2017 is, ‘Start saying no before it feels desperate.’ Maintain a life that is enjoyable, instead of just ploughing through, or feeling that adrenaline all the time just to get you through from one end of the day to the next. We can’t do it like that. Lots of likes to that before, what I said.
So, I hope that this is interesting. I’m just basically sharing my lessons for the year, in the hope that it is helpful to you. Stick with me here, because this is a big one that really only just landed for me in the last 24 hours.
So, I was talking to my mentor about how to close off 2017, knowing that there are things that absolutely didn’t happen. Making peace with some of the stuff. He gave me a bit of a smackdown, and it was around the area of responsibility. Not, ‘Are you a responsible person,’ but, ‘Do you take responsibility, Lisa, for everything that’s in your life?’
I was like, ‘Hang on, this stings a little bit.’ We were just chatting away on messenger, and I just let this integrate a little bit, and I realised that 2017, for me, felt like I was being spun around in a clothes-dryer. It felt like I was the victim of 2017, that I was out of control, the things were just kind of happening to me.
So, I’m sitting there thinking, that’s what it has felt like to me. You get the washing machine analogy? Stick with me then Anne, because this is going somewhere, and I hope it makes sense. It’s like the reason for this shingles was this breakthrough moment for me. I was like, ‘Right, well then, 2018, if I feel spun out, I need to upgrade my machine,’ is what I thought. That’s it, I can just buy a dryer that makes everything light and fluffy.
Cool, this is good. I’m going to get a machine that basically just blows air, and I’m going to come out light and fluffy, and it’s all going to feel nice and warm and cosy. I’m sure those machines exist, that’s what I’m asking for from 2018.
Then I was like, ‘Oh no. I don’t need a new washing machine. I don’t need a machine. I need to be hung out to dry on the line. I need sunshine, I need fresh air, I need the breeze. I need what feels good, and natural, and to dry in my own freaking time.
And then I thought, ‘Oh my gosh, I am the towels, but I’m also the person hanging up the towels, and I am the clothes line, and I am the sun, and I am the breeze.’
I am all of those things, because I am 100% responsible for everything that I create. 100%.
I am all of the things. OK, quite a few love hearts there. Are you with me on this?
I thought I was being knocked around, but that was a self-created clothes-dryer. The way that I was seeing life was disempowering. It gave me no control. It gave me no responsibility. And the fact is, I create everything in my life. Every single thing is a choice. So, this realisation that I’ve had today.
I think it’s going to go down in history, the clothes-dryer analogy, because it made everything so clear. It gave me back power in my own life. Yes Sarah. ‘Revelation, light-bulb moments.’ Yes, it really was. We are creating this all for ourselves. And this is the journey that I am on. So, this is the journey that Small Steps is on, this whole Facebook page that my members are on.
Because we cannot see food – I just thought it was about the food. It’s never just about the food. But it’s actually more than just the exercise, and the mindset. It’s actually us owning that we are responsible for everything that we create. I feel emotional talking about this, because I can see how it’s going to shift every single thing I do, and it can for you too.
So, I really hope that that analogy was clear and understandable. If you think about your life as the person who hangs the washing out, as the washing, as the clothes-line holding it all together, as the sun that is the strength and the brightness and the light, and the breeze, and you can shift with it. It’s just, yes.
Why do we forget? I do not know the answer to that question. I think it’s because there are so many lessons for us to learn. Caroline saying that every thought and every emotion we have is creating our life. It’s completely true. More and more and more, I am realising that it is 100% the truth.
You know, we could go totally woo on what this shingles means. I don’t know. I opened my Louise Hay, and pretty much everything is on it. There have been a lot of lessons. Let’s just go back to the notebook and not get too carried away.
This is another one that was shared with me, and I was like, I don’t get it.’ Anyone who’s listened to the Keeping Good Company Podcast has probably heard this.
I was told that the rest is the work.
I was like, ‘Yes, it totally is.’ Yep, the rest is the work. The rest is the work. Like, the rest is the work? Or the REST is the work?
More and more and more, I’ve realised that we are so terribly bad at giving ourselves moments of peace and rest. It is a lesson in itself for me to stop. It’s another lesson entirely for me to realise that all the goodness comes from those moments. We can think that we are being productive, good mothers, good workers, whatever it is, by just filling it all up, maxing it out. I’ve been totally caught in that vortex.
I had four trips to America this year, and I would wonder why I would have these huge downloads on the plane. And it was just simply because there was nothing else to do. I gave myself space. Like, I started writing a book. That whole Small Steps Back to You program was created in a café in New York, and then on a flight home from New York. It just all came out. That’s it.
We don’t realise that we’re not creating space at all in our lives for the good stuff, are we? I know, I’m hearing all the mums of young kids being like, ‘Well, you know, that’s easy for you to say. Your kids are sleeping through the night now. You know, there are not people at you all the time.’
But I remember I used to try, each week, to go to the market by myself. The whole reason I was selling Thermomixes, back in the day, was I would do the demos at night once the kids were down and no one needed my boobs, and then off I’d go by myself.
I can remember just crying in the car, just listening to really random songs on really dodgy radio stations, just for that little bit of release. For that bit of rest and silence. One of my best memories of Brisbane is driving at night, by myself. We lived in an area where when I’d come home, I’d have to go down this big hill, and I would see all the lights of Brisbane City right in front of me, and it just made me feel expansive.
It just made me feel like there’s a world out there, and during those baby years, I needed that. I needed to know that it was all bigger than this moment, it was all bigger than getting up the next day and all the things that have to happen to keep people alive and well.
But I wish I’d given myself more time to rest, you know.
To just stop. Very big lessons for Lisa.
So, I’ve got no idea what the time is, but the other thing that I have realised, another big lesson this year, is that it can be really, really painful to be on a journey of self-exploration, or something like that. You know, I like the word ‘exploration’ instead of ‘improvement’, because I think we’re all perfect. But it’s this self-exploration journey.
What I can see, for sure, without a shadow of a doubt – I’ve got you guys, and the comments, and seeing what resonates. And then I’ve had Small Steps to Wholefoods peeps, and Small Steps Back to You. There was this different sensibility about that program, and the type of people that were coming in. And then there are the members, who get access to most things.
What I could see was the people who had done the food stuff – food is like the most beautiful form of self-care. One of the simplest, most beautiful forms of self-care. And it’s a brilliant entry point into this world of self-exploration, I think. Because it’s one of the easiest, most immediate ways we can check in with ourselves.
Like, ‘How do I feel right now?’ About, ‘How did that food literally make me feel?’ Is peppermint working for me right now? Well, it is, but at any moment it might not, and that’s OK. So, what I have seen is that it’s the women who are on that food journey, who are incorporating this extra stuff. They’re going deeper, they’re looking at their values, they’re looking at what their life means to them. They’re seeking simplification.
They’re like, ‘Enough now. Enough of trying to pretend that this is all OK. Enough trying to pretend that we’re a generation who has it all together, and I need to be this perfect image of myself to the world.’ It’s crushing us, and it’s not allowing us to explore the people that we are. I can see it’s that combination that really propels people forward.
The breakthroughs that some of the Small Steppers have had this year – it’s extraordinary. I just think as a generation of women, there is a growing number of us going, ‘This doesn’t work.’ And I was never, ever going to be someone in the food space who was like, ‘Above all else, food.’ Because I just don’t think it works that way.
I think you absolutely make different decisions about food when you change the way you feel about yourself.
And so, I think it’s painful. I have had huge breakthroughs, huge personal breakthroughs of realisations about myself.
We have had family upheaval, and it’s really painful to be on that path – but it’s so damn worth it. It is the most worthwhile thing. And I’ll always thank myself for starting this Facebook page, and creating a business that I can create things for myself, and help people with them.
But it’s an extraordinary privilege, but it’s also set me on this path of, ‘Whoa.’ The vulnerability, the fear, the roller coaster – it’s just been humungous. And so all of those lessons that I am learning, as I’m kind of busting through limitations that I had of myself, and there are a lot. I just want to bring you guys along.
I just want us all to rise together.
I just think that I am just like you. We’re all struggling with the same stuff, and we’re all looking for this to mean a little bit more than it does. I don’t know if you’re like me, but I kind of went through, did Uni, did quite well there. Like, was always quite cool with academia, and then I went into the workforce and didn’t have very good jobs.
I was just doing random stuff. I was working at an events company. I was just so random. And then I really found something that I enjoyed doing. It was awesome. But it was all just kind of scattered, and then you have kids, and then you’re like, ‘I can’t even think the same as that person years ago.’
And then, for me now, I am through the baby-making years, and that’s been a hard thing for me to accept, but I am. Now it’s like, ‘Who’s Lisa Corduff now?’
I think we have to give ourselves the gift of exploring that, in a safe space.
If I can in any way facilitate that conversation, that’s what I’d really like to do. That’s what the Small Steps Living Membership is for. It’s why it’s overhauled. It’s why it’s Version 2.0 right now. Because I just don’t think we can have conversations about improving food without simplifying our lives, and without thinking about the mindset stuff. And having these sorts of conversations – which I’m going to be having – that help us move through stuff.
Create a different version of the clothes-dryer. Or, busting out the clothes-dryer. You don’t need the clothes-dryer. The clothes-dryer keeps us in victim mode. Life isn’t happening to us, we’re creating our life. This is where I think our power and strength can come from. Here’s what I realised. If I have come this far without realising that I am responsible for all the good stuff – because I haven’t.
I mean, I outsource. All the good stuff is because other people have helped me, or someone else has made that happen for me. I mean, chronically. Are you like that too, I wonder? What I’ve realised is, if I take responsibility for all of that then I can also accept that I can pretty much create anything that I want. And I can take responsibility for bad stuff too. I created it, part of me. Like, it’s in my world. At every single moment, I have a choice.
I talk to people about the choice of food because it’s the simplest way to start. In every moment, we have a choice, and we have to take that power back. And I think if we do, anything is possible. That’s the way I am feeling at the end of 2017.
Beaten down with shingles, because it’s like, ‘Lisa, you weren’t listening. I was telling you. Slow down.’ But there I was thinking I didn’t have a choice, that this is just, like, what I have to do. No. And it’s not what you have to do either.
So, I hope that that was useful. ‘I am the sum of all things.’ Yes. ‘My word for next year is spaciousness. Consciously creating space for whatever needs to come through.’ Helena, my word for 2017 was ‘expansive’ and I feel like I have been very open. I’m still working on my word for 2018. That’s why you sold Thermies too, Mel. Awesome. ‘Less is more.’ That’s why you mountain bike ride. Awesome.
Tamara Lee, ‘I lost someone close to me this year, and somehow found my way to Small Steps Back to You, then into the Membership. It’s really helped me to realise,’ oh, I can’t read the rest of that, how annoying. I’m so glad you’ve found it useful Tamara Lee.
Tatiana said, ‘I do that so well, you have no idea.’ And I don’t even know what you’re talking about, I missed whatever that was. ‘Keep on rising.’ Lorraine Boss, hello lady! Long time no see. ‘Discovered so many aspects of my life that I need to go back, reconnect, and all require me to make more time, and I really think about choice.’ Oh my God, that’s so good.
‘So easy just to be known as someone else’s mum and not me.’ Yes. ‘Teaching us all to shine.’ I hope so, Deb. ‘The best therapy I’ve had. Practical solutions to finding me again.’ The beautiful Anne. I’m so glad to watch you continue to work through stuff, it’s awesome.
Your word is ‘ease’ Lucy. Awesome. ‘You remember the kid in the movie Parenthood, who had the bucket on his head, and he was ramming his bucket-head into walls? That’s a visual I had. Take off the bucket. Look around.’ Absolutely love it.
You guys, I love these conversations with you, and this is what I do in the membership. It is actually closing tomorrow night. If anyone from here isn’t a member – I know there are lots of you here because I’m recognising all your names – you know you can jump in and join us for this.
I’m really excited about what 2018 will bring. I have thought a lot about the conversations. I watch, and I can see that we’re all at this stage together. You aren’t alone in feeling frustrated with things. But also, massively hopeful, massively amazed with the possibility that is you. Like, with all your own unique gifts.
If I could, in any way, just scrape off some of the bullshit that is keeping you from being your amazing self – that is my job. And I always will think that food is one of the best places to start this whole journey, but there is so much more. There’s so much more to you.
I’m not going to talk to you as though you’re not a whole woman, living a complicated, complex life. With things that are pulling you in all directions, and that you go to bed at night, and you just think, ‘Whoa. What was that?’
You know, we’re all doing it. I do think, if you’ve been here and listened to the clothes-dryer analogy. Which I’m so glad made sense to you, because I was actually worried that it wasn’t going to make sense to anybody else but me. If we can take responsibility for being all the things.
For being the clothes, for being the clothes-line, for being the person hanging it out, for being the sun and the breeze, and all the things. Whoa, it’s going to be an amazing 2018. I will remind you again, and again, and again that it’s possible.
2018 is going to be huge, Mel. Oh, Lorraine, we would love to have you back. Big changes in the Membership girlfriend. ‘Can we get into the membership from the day we join, or does it start at a later date?’ I only open the doors – well, this year it’s been twice – so this is the second time I’ve opened it, and then we close it off.
So, you can get started for $27, that’s the monthly membership. A lot of people are saying that they want to do the yearly membership, but before Christmas, it’s a bit hard, and I get that. So, you can upgrade at any time. Jump in, have a little look around. If you don’t like it, you don’t have to stay. It’s totally up to you whether you want to stick around. You’re not locked into a contract or anything.
There’s amazing stuff in there. My whole Small Steps to Wholefoods e-course that was around for ages is in there. Everyone who did the Breakfast Series got the version of that. I just wanted to give away something for free so you guys knew who I was, what I stood for, what you could expect if you wanted to join the Membership. I was like, ‘I’m just going to give it to them.’
So you can make a decision about whether we vibe, and whether coming on a journey, on a Small Steps journey, is something that feels good to you. Because I can tell you all I want that it’s awesome.
Like, I was in tears today. I don’t think Amelia is here, but I had tears reading the changes that she’s experienced in the last 12 months of the membership. Because I just know it’s possible for so many people.
And really, when you commit to something and it’s going to take you through a process for the next six-to-eight weeks, and then you end up feeling like a failure because you can’t do it, or you ended up back at zero. It’s just bullshit, and it doesn’t have to be like that.
And there are supportive spaces. Amelia, in that post, said she’s gotten rid of every other Facebook group, every other Facebook page. She’s basically only on Facebook for the Small Steps stuff. Because it’s a really great community, and I’m starting to cry – just because they really are extraordinary women.
There are lots of them here, watching this. It’s like a privilege to watch them expand, and grow, and create the change that they’ve been really busting for. For their families, and for themselves. So, clearly, I’m sure it’s just the shingles that are making me cry.
‘With a lot less stress.’ That’s awesome, Narelle. I’m so glad. ‘Yes. 2018 with me and the tribe.’ I’m so glad you’re there, Caroline. You bring a beautiful energy to it, you really do. I’m excited to get to know you more. Bella, I will remind you again and again and again.
Oh, Amelia, you are here! You made me cry, totally, again, just even thinking about what you shared today. ‘Very value-packed, starting on the mindset stuff.’ Good girl, Mel. You’ll meet amazing people. ‘2018. Enjoying the clothes-line, sun and breeze.’ Awesome.
In the membership, we will be setting our word for the New Year, as we always do, and the feelings that we want to be guided by in 2018. So, we’ll keep that for January. Let’s just get through, with your Christmas checklist.
‘Seen and free, a bit terrified.’ That’s awesome Bella. ‘The direction is suiting me so well. I’m hanging out for the retreat.’ Oh no, Karen – I’ve got to organise the retreat. If you don’t come, I’ll just be devastated. Karen’s been a member for a while, and she’s an absolute rockstar. ‘Love how raw you are. I think that’s the reason people are helped by you. You’re real.’ Thanks, Bronwyn. Can’t get more real than no makeup and shingles on my face!
But, you know, this is the thing, also, that I’ve been having to-, It’s hard to hear good things about yourself. I don’t know if you feel this? I really do struggle with it. So, I keep myself safe. I actually have a lot to say beyond food, and all that sort of stuff, and I guess tonight is a bit of a coming out of all of that stuff.
Members know it, and people in Back to You know it, but it’s not something that I necessarily share here all the time. But it’s going to be coming out, whether you like it or not. I have to start owning that that is something that I can do well. That I can. I want to use this.
A very special person, Tanya, who is a member, and who also does all the transcriptions for the two podcasts that I run. I mean, wow, I’m surrounding by amazing people! Her words have really helped me kind of work out that we can just keep stepping forward into our own little zone of genius.
Like, there’s something very special about you. There’s something that you can give to your community, your family, whatever it is – that no one else can. We have to start acknowledging that stuff. And Jules, a member, tooted her own horn, sharing something that someone said about her at her work. And it’s like, ‘Hallelujah, let’s do this!’
That’s another lesson for 2017. Tall Poppy keeps us small. And if you saw that Facebook Live a few weeks ago, I really do think, like, it’s something we really need to talk about. Like, why aren’t we able to go, ‘I’m really quite good at this, and I love it’?
I don’t know if it’s just you, or me, but I have had the story going in my head for a very long time that that’s not a cool thing to do. I’ve actually realised it’s probably the thing that’s holding me back the most from being able to help more people, and share my message in a more meaningful way, instead of the ad hoc nature in which I do it.
Amelia, ‘Keeps us all rising.’ As do you Karen. ‘Umming and ahhing but I’m going to sign up tonight.’ Oh Eryn, we would love to have you. I mean, it’s $27 and you can just go in and check it all out, and it’s a very welcoming community, I must say.
‘That’s the most important thing I got from Back to You, setting the feelings.’ Yes, it’s a good one, isn’t it? ‘I think I’ve mentioned, people have commented to me on how I’ve changed thanks to you Lisa.’ OK, that’s just going to make me cry, but thank you, Lorena, for saying that.
And I am just happy for you, because here’s the thing. It’s not actually me, it’s you. It’s you who’s changing. It’s just this little vehicle, that’s it. Everyone has access to it, but some people are jumping on, and then some people go further, and actually start to implement these things, and it’s actually really extraordinary what can happen. It blows my mind. When you’re ready, you can go. Everything is there for you waiting. It’s not me, it’s actually you.
Christie’s just said the same thing, that your friends have noticed a change in you since Declutter and Back to You. That’s just amazing. Rachel, ‘Looking forward to being part of the Membership group, and working through 2018 together. 2017 has been a crazy year. I feel like I haven’t achieved anything. What you’re sharing relates,’ and then it cuts off, I can’t see the rest of it Rachel.
That’s the final thing that will be happening every month in the Small Steps Membership is celebrate. We need to get better at acknowledging what we are doing, instead of thinking about what we aren’t all the time. I am chronically bad at this.
Amanda, if you’re still here – from the Mastermind that I run for other businesswomen with my beautiful friend Karly. Amanda, look I’ve got your cup! She said, ‘Pause for applause,’ is her thing. Like, ‘Lisa, you never pause for applause.’ Because I’m always like, ‘Well, that went well but there’s a lot to learn. This didn’t work. And now I’m onto the next thing.’ And I never just stop and pause for applause.
I’ve been sharing this with Nick too. I need to acknowledge what this year meant in terms of change for me, and for the kids, and for him. Like, for our whole family, and just acknowledge what I’ve achieved. And I bet, Rachel, that you’ve achieved a lot this year. It’s just that we are programmed to see what we’re not doing.
We’re programmed to think about where we lack. We’re programmed to think that everyone else has more, is doing more. It’s just fucking not true. It’s just not. And if it looks like they are, maybe they end up like this, right?
‘Wouldn’t this membership be the best Christmas gift?’ It is, and people have been buying it as a gift. Like, they’re buying the yearly Membership for someone that they love, and if you want to do that, just email us at firstname.lastname@example.org
‘It’s the support that you give us, and the fact that so many women can relate to you, and it’s obvious you care about women and your members.’ I’m so glad that that comes through, because I genuinely do.
I’m going to sign out now, I’m going to go to bed, and I’m going to sleep. And it’s going to feel good. Do you know what? I was lying on my bed before for a few hours. Nick did the dinner and baths, I’m so very blessed for that. And it’s not here, but I had Netflix open, and it was like Riverdale, new episodes landing today.
Well, where the hell was Riverdale when I needed it? It said 7 December, and I’m sitting there going, ‘Riverdale. Give me something to watch.’ And then I thought, ‘This is the universe saying, “Close your eyes.”’ Anyway, not too sure if anyone else is a Riverdale fan, but I love that show. I was a big fan of Archie Comics. My brother had so many of them.
Anyway, I am going to head out of here. You guys, thanks for joining me. Thanks for sticking around. I hope that some of that was useful. Maybe I’ll add this as a podcast or something, I’m sure we can maybe do that somehow, technology.
Thank you so much Lorraine, it’s so beautiful to see you again. I will maybe get this up as a podcast, even although it will sound like a bit of a bad podcast episode because I’m talking to you guys here live.
‘The Crown is on now. Wait, tomorrow. OK, good. The Crown, yes, I’ve been waiting for new episodes of The Crown.’ Good night everyone. ‘Great listening, thanks. Goodnight to you too.’ Thank you guys. See you. I really appreciate you sticking around for this, and I do hope it was helpful. And I will see you members. You know where I’ll be. OK, bye.