In this episode, Lisa talks about the importance of making time to fill your own cup and reconnect with yourself – in the midst of the madness that is parenthood and weekends with kids. It’s time to stop letting those days between the rush of work and school just fly by in a haze of loads of washing and grocery shopping and “normal” life – let’s make them awesome and appreciated.
Prefer to read? Here’s the transcript:
Hey everyone. On today’s podcast, I wanted to discuss a little topic that has been driving me nuts lately, and it’s weekends. I don’t know about you, but I get to a Friday night, and all I want is a glass of wine, and to watch whatever really crap American sitcom I’m watching on Netflix. I want to tune out. I’ve done it, the week is done. Friday night is a night to relax, chill with my husband, or without. I don’t really care, because I’m, kind of, done. But what this means, when Friday nights are like that, is that I don’t plan my weekend. And I find it really, really hard once the kids are awake. I’ve got three kids, five and under, and once they’re awake, it’s like the day’s happening, that’s it. It’s underway, there’s so much noise around me, and I find it really, really hard to get clear about what I actually need to do.
So on the weekend, on the Sunday just passed, after a Saturday where not much got done, but the day, kind of, happened, my husband and I were like, ‘Damn, we’ve got to get organised. We’ve got to do something tomorrow.’ And so we decided the night before that we were going to head up to Mount Glorious, which is, you know, glorious, in Brisbane, and go for a bush walk. Go to a lovely little café that has the most amazing views of the mountains, and Brisbane. And enjoy, maybe, some scones with jam and cream, as one does in the mountains, where it’s not crisp and cold, like it might have been in the Dandenongs in Melbourne, near where I grew up. Anyway, it was such a great day. It was grounding, we got out, we did something, and we loved it.
And you know what? I think that on this treadmill of life with toddlers and young kids, it’s just so easy to, kind of, you know, get to the farmer’s market, get some washing on, play in the garden, ride scooters, do whatever, and not actually fill our own cups. And I’m trying to work out, more and more, as this journey continues, what filling my own cup means with kids. And I’m sure this is something I’m going to be talking about a lot in this podcast, because I 100% believe that I come back as a better mother, once I have filled my own cup. But it’s asking for what I need, that I find really hard. And you know, my husband currently works full-time, and he gets to the weekend, and he doesn’t want to switch his brain on either. But gone are those days where we can just leisurely walk up the street to a café, and, you know, enjoy a coffee, maybe even two. Some nice meals, like, read the paper. Wow, reading the paper, that used to be an amazing pastime.
You know, it’s just not like that any more, and I have gone through my period of mourning for that. I don’t even think about that any more. It’s like, ‘What can I do within the context of how we’re living our life right now, that fills our cup? How can it happen? What can we do?’ And it’s just making for much more interesting weekends. Because here’s the thing. I’ve realised that I need to prioritise my downtime, not to just expect to have it, but prioritise it. So when I know that there’s going to be downtime, like weekends, or after the kids go to sleep, or whatever, I need to make that as important to me as I would schedule work time. Or, you know, the kids’ activities. It’s more important than all of those things, because those things are going to happen regardless. What won’t happen is me making sure that the times that I’ve got to really let loose, enjoy, fill my own cup, they’re just going to fly by in getting washing done. Or, you know, I don’t know, just going for a walk up the street. You know, just the normal stuff.
I need to treat those times like they’re more important. I don’t know, I think about people who have amazing businesses and lifestyles, and they would prioritise, and make sure that, you know, if they’re working hard, or perceived to work hard in their work times, then the times that they don’t have to work, they make it matter, you know? And I think that that’s what I really want to do, too. I want to take it into my own hands, I really want to live every moment. And it’s not about being ‘on’ all the time, it’s not about always having something to do. It’s about making sure that those moments that we have, that are so precious when you’ve got little kids, are meaty, and worthwhile, and fill my cup. They ground me, they connect me back to myself. I laugh, I have fun. I can do that with my kids, it’s just that, for a lot of the time, it’s, ‘Get your shoes on. Quick, out the door.’ This and that. So, I just wanted to share that with you. Weekends are going to be looking, and feeling, a little different around here.
I would love, you know, I am always around on my Facebook page, and blog, to share stories with you, and I always look for feedback on the podcasts that I do. If you’ve liked this, please enjoy it. If it’s made you think a little differently about your weekend, give me a rating, or a little-, whatever you have to do with podcasts. Just learning myself! I really just wanted to record this, to remind you that each moment that we have can be whatever we make it. And if you’re coming to weekends like I am, which is just with sheer relief that you’ve gotten through another week, and then your weekends fly by and it’s Monday again, let’s just stop. Let’s think about doing something that’s going to make us feel awesome. You and your partner, if you’ve got one, you deserve to feel awesome on weekends too. It’s not always just about the kids, if you’re got them, of course. Okay, checking out. I’ll see you again soon. Bye.