I was in a cafe today near our house. They sell the mother of all babycinos – chocolate powder (top and bottom), 100’s & 1000’s AND marshmallows. Of course I tweak the offering… But I’m going to freely admit that this wholefood mama allows a marshmallow with a babycino.
Since weaning my babe I have jumped back into coffee. Not every day. But if we are out and about and I see a cafe we’ll sit down and have a babycino and coffee. I love it. Teaching kids how to sit down nicely at a table, using manners to ask for things, my son is seriously digging paying for stuff at the moment so we talk about how much things cost and the change we will get back. Talking over a coffee to my children is seriously awesome (if only the eighteen month old would stop hiding under the table and then standing up and bumping her head and crying…..)
My favourite cafe, Tall Short, provides gorgeous tiny gingerbread men instead of marshmallows – it’s the best – mummy gets one too! But many other places add marshmallows. There have been times I’ve been at a new place and we’ve had THREE marshmallows arrive with each babycino – I put my foot down at that. What kids needs that?!
Then there’s Wray’s Organics that offers a few little bits of dairy free chocolate with each babycino and brilliant quality milk – we have a Wray’s literally around the corner from our house.
In truth, we aren’t really a milk family so often this is the only time they get ‘normal milk’. In saying normal, the milk that we buy at the supermarket and has been pasteurised and homogenised is actually quite far from ‘normal’. And of course there’s the issue of the cows producing that milk being fed hormones etc etc. The modern dairy industry is a little cray cray actually so we steer clear or buy organic unhomogenised or raw milk.
But babycino’s it is, once a week.
And I’m totally cool with that. Here’s why…
I am making a conscious choice to include this into my kids diet. They do not have it all the time and it happens outside our home. Mostly they eat real food from home. If we bought marshmallow packets and they were constantly hounding me for them I’d be driven NUTS! But this is an experience they have outside of our (mostly) wholefoods kitchen.
Sometimes they get a marshmallow and sometimes they don’t. They do not complain or throw a tantrum, they understand that sometimes it happens and sometimes it doesn’t – building in them a resilience to accept when they might not get something they want.
I KNOW all the reasons why marshmallows are not a great food (well, they are hardly food!?!!). I know that ‘treats’ should be things like a bowl of organic cherries but since my kids interact with other children who receive food in packets and they attend birthday parties with lollies and sweets etc, I CHOOSE to incorporate something they consider very special into our life. And I control how we do it. The last thing I want is for my kids to rebel against me and choose the opposite foods.
I also want them to experience this food and then make a decision about whether they want it or not. Help THEM make a call. My son said the other day, “I don’t want a babycino mummy because I want some healthy food”. He had an ulcer and we’d been talking about ulcers appearing because he was rundown and he needed to get some good rest and eat great healthy food to help make it go away.
He understands – BY EXPERIENCING – the difference between healthy foods and what we call ‘sometimes’ foods.
It is also something I love to do and I enjoy that my children can share the experience. It’s not particularly ‘wholefoods’, is it? But this is me #keepingitreal and working out the best way forward as a mother. Who the hell knows how they’ll turn out. I might change my mind on this stance soon. But for now all I am doing is trying to make the best choice as a mother. And goodness knows some choices are better than others…. This might end up falling into that pile.
I just don’t want to hold the string too tight with all this food stuff. But it’s a fine line, isn’t it?
I’d love to know – do your kids enjoy a babycino?