If I got a dollar for every time I have heard this in the past few weeks I’d be rich! I wanted to write a post to dispel this outrageous myth. Because here’s the thing:
I DON’T DO IT ALL!
No one does. Or can. Or should.
It’s a huge myth and if I make it look like I’m able to ‘do it all’, well scratch below the surface. Here’s what you’ll find…
A messy house!
Skirting boards that are in desperate need of attention, piles of clothes, a baby in a ‘spare room’ that has definitely not been transformed into a baby room. For anyone who knows me, they know that my house is not the tidiest on the block! I do try but like everyone, things can get on top of me.
Children watching TV.
I don’t like my kids watching too much TV but during the 21 Day Challenge that I ran recently I totally used that box to entertain. My son has always been a little challenged in the ‘self-sufficiency department’. He requires someone to play with. He’s my shadow. He wants to be around people. When his dad is home I get free time because he’s obsessed with him. But otherwise, it’s very hard for me to do things on my own. So we do stuff together. Or he watches TV when I need time out! While his sisters are sleeping in the afternoon we get in the kitchen and cook together. He enjoys it and it’s a chance for me to get dinner on or make some snacks for the week. But you know what, sometimes I just need NO ONE TALKING AT ME and I use the TV in those moments.
A less than perfect diet.
If it looks like I’m ‘Lisa Corduff Wholefoods 24/7’ well that’s not true. And neither is it true for my kids. Yes, I try to eat real food most of the time, but that doesn’t mean ALL the time. I adore making food, sharing it and eating it. I am constantly experimenting with how to make real food outrageously tasty and enjoy sharing my exploits on my FB page. Of course I don’t share when I bring home a packet of Red Rock chips (doesn’t happen often but it does happen). That’s not what my page is about. It’s about the substitutions that I am making- like kale chips and sweet potato skins and tamari almonds.
Grumpiness, tiredness, irrational behaviour!
Yep, I am not happy all the time, as has been suggested. In fact, a uni friend who I have kept in touch with via FB recently said to me I remind her of Emma from The Wiggles because I’m happy all the time! INCORRECT!
Ask my husband. And my children.
But then, I must say, that I have an optimistic disposition. Some might call it naivety…? But man, when I’m pissed off, you know about it!
I am so far from the perfect figure. Three kids in a short amount of time has changed my shape. I have not figured out how to incorporate proper exercise into my regime. But I want to. I have to. I miss it. I’ll probably share my story on this via the blog over the coming months. I find it hard while I’m breastfeeding. But need to prioritise it. When we lived in Sydney I used to walk everywhere and never really thought about needing to exercise because I was just doing it as part of my life. That’s harder where I live in Brisvegas.
Big dreams without much to show for it.
If you only knew how many business ideas I have come up with in the last 18 months – it’s out of control! I am the worlds worst at ‘following through’ on an idea. So while I might look productive from the outside, I am usually just busy fluffing about on the next idea and NOT getting my business up and running. This is about to change though….
Now, I didn’t write this post with the intention of declaring my life is crap and I’m all over the place. Because it’s not, I’m not. I am happy and grateful most of the time. But I don’t have it all together. And if it seems that having three kids three and under, and working, and having a husband who works away from home a bit, and not having any family around to help out, and living on a budget makes life tough – WELL THAT’S BECAUSE IT IS!
But here’s what I do have that helps me achieve a lot:
- A super husband.
- Children that sleep (yes, even the baby – my babies have always been great sleepers and I’ll be forever grateful for that).
- I have my health. And my kids are healthy and happy.
- I have an amazing support network of friends in Brisbane and while some of the most important people in my life live very far away, they always make me feel supported and loved, even from a distance.
- I have a ridiculous amount of passion about helping people eat real food and this motivates me every day.
My life is good, but it’s not perfect and I cannot do it all. Expecting that will only lead to me driving myself into the ground and life is too short for that. I hope that I have dispelled the myth that I can ‘do it all’. I can’t and don’t.
Does anyone really have it totally together!?