In this episode, Lisa talks about investing in your own personal development; how saying “yes” to the scary things is what helps us to grow. She talks about the difference it makes when we’re kind to each other, and ourselves – finding supportive spaces where we can grow, expand, and decide to really commit to living a life with passion and purpose.
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Hey guys, I am so thrilled you have joined me for another episode of the podcast. I really loved bringing you all my Small Steppers’ stories, and you can expect some more of them to be sprinkled throughout. I got great feedback on people just listening to other real people talk about what’s really going on in their lives, and one thing about my Small Steppers that is 100% guaranteed is that there is a story for all of them, and there’s a story for you, too.
You know, if we are in this zone, if people are signing up to memberships to learn how to do something better, or improve their life, there’s this element of, well, it’s personal development, right? It’s people wanting a little bit more from themselves, or for themselves. Or, you know, they want a transformation.
I feel like my job is to provide a vehicle for that transformation, and when people come into the Small Steps world, that vehicle can help propel them to where they want to go. It’s right for some people, and it wouldn’t be right to some people, but I love that that is my job, and I love seeing the transformations take place.
That membership is my most fun thing, because I get to hang out with people who constantly surprise themselves, and there’s a very particular that but I’ve created that space in order to be able to, I guess, holds people’s hands on that journey. I wanted to share with you today a little bit about my own journey, because I think it’s a universal one, it’s not particularly Lisa Corduff one.
I guess I went away to New York, and I had been to LA earlier, that was in February. The truth is, I’m heading to America four times this year. I joined this particular program for my own personal development at the end of last year. I mean, obviously, that is a big commitment to make, and I was so scared, like, vomit in my mouth kind of scared, about doing this. But it’s something that I’d been thinking about for a long time, and there were very specific reasons why I said, ‘Yes.’ Then this big, whole, wad of trust in why I said, ‘Yes,’ to this opportunity.
So, I thought I would share a little bit about it with you, only because I’m sure if you’re in this community, maybe you’re curious about what I’m doing over there. And also because I know that so many of us are dealing with exactly the same things. You know, lack of self-belief, knowing that there are things that we’re really good at, but not necessarily knowing how to do them in a way that can support us financially, and all those sorts of things.
So, the first thing that I want to say is that I said, ‘Yes,’ even although I was really, really scared. And I wonder, when was the last time you did that? It’s a theme I talk about with my kids a lot. You know, we talk about getting butterflies and beetles in our tummy, that’s when they’re feeling nervous. And that we’re a family who, sometimes, if we got those butterflies and beetles it means we really shouldn’t be doing something, but sometimes we get butterflies and beetles right before we do something awesome. And sometimes, we just need to give things a try.
So, when I joined up, I knew I was going to be in a group for a year, with people who were really impressive to me. They were creating change on a really large scale, and, you know, here I was, Lisa, wholefoods blogger, mum of three, from Australia, hanging out with these go-getter Americans. But I just knew it was going to be the right place for me, and walking in, I had all the butterflies and beetles.
But I said yes, because I know that for me to grow, and this has been the case my whole life, like, I was the chick who was putting her hand up for the leadership camps, I was into extracurricular stuff. I was School Captain at High School, and at Uni, I got a scholarship to do my PhD, which I ended up actually quitting, because I don’t think there was enough talking in academia for Lisa. But that was a really hard decision to make, to leave that.
Anyway, I have always known that there’s something scary about investing in your own personal development, but you don’t personally develop until you do. I think there are so many opportunities for us to step outside our comfort zone, and there are so many reasons why we never do. Sometimes, it takes really looking at some of the big, horrible, hairy things that are holding us back from really living a life on purpose.
It’s awful to be confronted with that stuff. You know, there’s fear and resistance every single step of the way. There’s always that voice in your head, going, ‘No, no, no, no, no, no. It’s safer back here Lisa. Come on, let’s just stick to what we know.’ But then, there’s also this part of you that thinks, ‘But what if I never know what I’m actually capable of?’ Or, ‘What if I never know what’s around that next corner?’
So, sometimes, you jump, and those jumps usually pay off. I’m not too sure when the last time you did something a bit scary was. I would love to know, I would love you to leave me a comment on the blog underneath this podcast, sharing, perhaps, a time when you thought, ‘Oh my God, am I really going to do this? Okay, yes, let’s do this!’ and it paid off. Or, you know, perhaps it didn’t.
What I’m realising, as I walk gingerly through life, is that everything in my past has lead me to where I am now. I know that’s totally cliché to say, but it really is true. I trained as a cadet journalist on Community TV years ago. I didn’t know why I was doing that at the time, I just thought I wanted to be a journalist. And then I just realised I wanted to tell stories, so I created a TV show, and I really cared about sustainability, and I saw that there was nothing on TV at the time.
So in 2007 I created a TV show. I had no idea what I was really doing, but I was working with a great mentor, who taught me so much. Then, before that, I’d worked in events, and before that, I was studying International Relations, and I had this big macro view of things going on. So, when it came to the world of food, and investigating that when my kids were born, while I was trying to change myself, I had all this bank of experience behind me that ended up finding its perfect home in this current business that I run, and have a bajillion ideas for.
It’s the exact same for all of us. You know, even listening and chatting with my Small Steppers, who were, like, ‘Well, the first way that I started to get involved in food was when I was proposed to, and wanted to lose some weight, and I went on a diet, and I actually learned about eating square meals.’ Or, ‘I learnt about the importance of adding in fresh food, but then it didn’t give me all the answers. I ended up putting weight back on, or I still didn’t feel really healthy, so I started this. And then I tried Paleo, and then that didn’t work, and then I did this.’
It’s like, we’re this constant evolution, but if we’re not taking the steps, if we just stay stagnant, then nothing ever changes. And as I said before, there are so many reasons why we are risk-averse people. So, I guess, for me, surrounding myself with people who inspire me-, you know, oftentimes I feel, kind of, like the dumbest person in the room. Which is so uncomfortable, and so great, because the opportunity for expansion and growth is just huge.
And those people, you know, they see me in the highest version of myself. And by that I mean, they see that anything’s possible, that if there’s something that I really want to do-, and there’s this American vibe, ‘Well then, you just go ahead and do it.’ You find a way, and you do it. And I think, maybe, in Australia we don’t necessarily have that confidence or belief. I don’t know if it’s just the whole Tall Poppy thing, or what it is. We kind of apologise for things that we’re good at, we don’t want to make anyone else feel bad. You know, what is that, really?
Americans are like, ‘I’m just really good at this. I just love doing this, so I’m just going to do it.’ Like, ‘Okay.’ Or, they see examples of people who are really living life on their own terms, and they just know that that’s possible for them. Whereas, I don’t know about you, but I’m always like, ‘Well, yes, that’s cool for them, but they’ve got blah blah blah.’ No. That’s just our fear and our resistance that shows up all the time, to keep us safe. And that’s fair enough, there are scary things in the world.
If you’ve read Elizabeth Gilbert’s Big Magic, she talks beautifully about fear and resistance. I love it. I actually think maybe I might have shared this on the podcast before, but I just now get used to that voice in my head showing up, going, ‘Lisa, as if, you can’t do this because blah blah blah.’ And now, I say, ‘Thank you for showing up and reminding me that this is a little bit scary, but I’m just going to go right ahead and do it anyway.’
So, these are the feelings that I get when I meet with this group in America, and this time it’ll happen four times a year, and we chat, we’ve got a Facebook group. Everyone’s seeing the potential in the other, and just egging them on. And I’m feeling very called to create something like that in Small Steps world as well.
Because I can just see that I love talking about food, I could talk about food a lot. I do. Any Small Stepper knows this, because they’ve come into the vortex, they know that it’s not just about food. We can want to change our lives, we can want to transform the food that we’re eating. But if we’re also not recognising that this requires a bit of a shift in our mindset, then we’re going to miss the huge opportunity.
I can see that so many of us struggle, sort of, flogging ourselves. Really being hard on ourselves on that journey, on any journey of transformation. And that most of the time, we just accept that it’s going to be a crazy rollercoaster ride, and it’s not going to be linear. It’s not going to be this perfect one step forward, one step forward, one step forward, that there is sometimes going to be two steps back, and then we just take one step forward, then we take the pressure of ourselves.
So, my question to you today, my Small Steps challenge, is when did you last say, ‘Yes,’ to your growth? Yes to your personal development? Yes to something scary, but so good? I can pretty much guarantee that there’s something amazing right around the corner, if it’s been a while for you. I want to encourage you to just sit and think about saying, ‘Yes,’ to you.
I had no idea what I was getting myself into by joining this group, but I knew I needed something. I knew I needed to be around people who were positive, and who believed in anything being possible, and who could hold my dreams, and go, ‘Yes, totally, you can do that.’ I’ve learnt so much about personal development in these last three years, since my very first Small Steps to Wholefoods kicked off. It also propelled me into facing a lot of the things that I guess I’ve had to stare in the face.
You know, lack of self-belief. Maybe that that’s not obvious to the outside world, but, you know, comparisonitis, big time. Lack of clarity, you know, sometimes just not knowing what to prioritise, I can be very scattered. Learning systems around that, around what to prioritise, and when work gets crazy, how to balance that with my life. And actually knowing how to be a mother who works hard, especially when it’s not like I go to an office to do this stuff, I work from my couch. Or right now I’m in my downstairs dungeon room recording this podcast, because there’s carpet down here.
All of these things, I’ve created little strategies for myself around. I had huge downloads, I mean, creating a little bit of space for myself. I could have turned around after that plane trip to New York, and come right back, and had it been totally worth my time, for the clarity that I started to get on things because of the silence. You know, our lives are so busy. So, this is something that I’m kind of churning away on.
There’s a link in the show notes, and there’s also a link on the website. If you want to get your name down on a waiting list to find out more about something that I’m creating around all of this stuff, for you, easily accessible, not hard, but usually transformative, then get your name down and I’ll be keeping you in the loop when things start to roll.
Really excited about this, because I love food, and there’s always going to be food talk around Small Steps, but this is Small Steps Living, and we can’t live and be our best selves when we locked away with our own fear and resistance keeping us small. And I know you out there, I was talking to Small Steppers, these are women with amazing things to share, amazing adversities that they’ve come through. We need more of us rising into ourselves.
I know it can happen when you’ve got small kids. I am proof that you can still grow you. And I mean, really, if there’s any bigger personal development journey than becoming a mum, I’m not too sure I know of it. But I can tell you that starting my own business has been a whole new level on top of that.
So, get your name down on the waitlist. The working title is Small Steps Back to You, because I believe that we don’t have to be anything other than ourselves, and that getting comfortable with that person, and giving that person space to grow, expand, decide. Oh my gosh, indecision is the worst. I think it’s time that we get back to ourselves, so, if you’d like to know more about that then get your name down.
I’m sure you’ll hear a bit more about it as the weeks roll on. I’m pretty much the most impatient person in the world, but I feel like all of this stuff that I’m experiencing, and growing, and taking on board from amazing mentors, and putting my own Lisa spin on things, I would love to share them with you, and give you the opportunity, space, to get back to you.
So, there’s my New York story. We could just talk about walking the streets and all that, but, maybe we should just all go on a holiday to New York together. Hey, it’s not a bad idea, let’s make this happen! Much love to you. I would love to know if what I shared today brought anything up for you. Please don’t forget to review on iTunes if you’re loving it, it really makes a difference, and there’s also comments that you can write on the website. You can just find the podcast and this episode, and join the conversation. Much love to you guys. Speak to you soon, bye for now.